Beautified, Part I

Beauty. There may be nothing that we as women desire more. We want to feel beautiful. To be absolutely convinced that we are desirable. To be showered with affirmation, to be told that we are irresistable. In fact, we need to feel beautiful.

God made us this way, with a beauty all our own. And He alone knows how to light us up and make us shine with irresistible captivating beauty.

There’s a wonderful passage for women in I Peter. In it, Peter talks about the ways that women pursue beauty, and then contrasts it with beauty in its purest and most enduring form. Let’s focus in on this passage, because within is a key to this seemingly-elusive beauty. This week we will consider beauty as an accumulation of external factors. Next week we will uncover beauty as a gift to the spirit.

I Peter 3:3-6 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

Your beauty should not come fromĀ¦ I like that our beauty is not implied but assumed. We are destined to be beautiful, and we will seek for it somewhere. It is just a matter of where we seek our beauty. Where will it come from, what will be the Source of our Beauty? This is what we as women will have to decide.

It should not come from, be found in, be the sum total of outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Let me translate. Our beauty should not come from, originate with, our physical appearance, such as our hairstyle, expensive jewelry, or the latest fashion trends.

This means that the following cannot be means to securing our beauty:

  • the size of our waist
  • highlights or lowlights
  • designer jeans
  • the size of our jeans
  • the size of our rock (for you married or engaged chicas)
  • whether we shop boutique or Target

Fill in the blank. What is it for you? What things do you depend on, fight for, obsess over, push hard to get, daydream about? Whatever it is for us, it is owning us as long as we are seeking to obtain our beauty through the accomplishment of these things. Some of us have driven ourselves deep into debt, have undergone surgeries, or have neglected more important areas of our life, all to achieve this elusive physical perfection. If you haven’t already discovered it, you will soon realize that this hamster wheel is not only tiring but fruitless. Someone will always be thinner, more fashionable, or ahead of you. Always. We may be young now, but one day we will grow old. What then, if our beauty is based on the accumulation of external factors? How then will we hold our own in this competitive world?

It is time now to establish for ourselves the Source from which we will live a lifetime of beauty.

If our beauty does not come from our outward adornment or physical appearance, where does it come from, and how do we get it? Stay tuned for the beautiful second half of the passage.

It just might make you Beautiful. From the inside out.

*This week, check out the new India.Arie video, “I Am Not My Hair” here. Trust me, you’ll love it!

Comments (3)

  1. meredith smith

    gah, i sure miss the “How Lovely” days, sitting in your den, eating warm cookies, telling each other our “beauty secrets,” and of course watching joy simonson throh fer cell phone in the toilet….this just brought so much truth to the surface again….thanks kat-o.

  2. Anonymous

    “a lifetime of beauty” – i love that!

    i think our desire for beauty is so often attached to other things, other pursuits. for instance, women spend years pouring their lives into their beauty in hopes of finding a husband. surely no suitable man would marry an imperfect woman. so we reach for perfection, through outward beauty. it may capture the man for a season, maybe even into a marraige, but what happens then? we have to keep it up, right? we have to maintain the perfection for the rest of our lives. our beauty is outward, not inward. soon our husbands will find us out. we fight against the forces of aging, pregnancy, and gravity. guess what… we cannot win. then our external beauty is gone, and we have nothing else to show for ourselves.

    how much more pleased a man would be to spend his life with a woman of inward beauty, a beauty to last a lifetime.

    at least we hope… right?

    this is only one example. a husband is one pursuit. there are others – a lucrative career, a dream, acceptance from our mother, a level of respect, and so on.

  3. Jennifer

    I enjoyed the song and video! Thanks.

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